This topic of being closer to my siblings has been on my mind for the longest time, sure growing up I think I got along fine with everyone. My memory is something of a mystery as I don’t really think all that much about the past.
But as I grow older, a lot of these thoughts come back to me, and anytime that I had tried to create a safe space for and be close to my siblings I just never know what to say.
Sure there are the occasional squabbles we have between siblings, but there’s always an elephant in the room of some sort.
So what are some of the ways you can try to get closer to your siblings?
1. Be Compassionate
As we grow older we start closing ourselves off by beating about the bush and creating barriers in our minds, we simply need to treat ourselves as we would a small child like a 1-2-year-old kid learning to crawl or walk or run. We give them a lot of leeways and are super patient with them. WE have to remember that we’re not all alone and that we need to let your siblings into your life and treat them with patience, support, and mindfulness.
2. Be Nice to Each Other
Just like we’re being compassionate to ourselves we need to treat each other how we’d like to be treated. Afterall because your siblings are your blood it’s extra painful when we hear back something that we weren’t expecting. So be nice to each other and give them room to speak and tell their stories.
3. Lend a Hand When you Can
The hardest thing for any one person is to ask for help. It’s something either you’re not taught this in school, but it is ok to ask for help and a lot of the times we’re not able to ask for help because of our own ego and intuitions and the backlash and rejection that comes with it. So as we grow up we stop asking for help. So when you have the ability or not lend a hand to your sibling.
Someone asked Bill Gates if there was anyone richer than him, the story he tells is captivating and shows us the depth of human intuition because he shares that he was helped monetarily by a person that had nothing. And after years Bill wanted to help him (after he was wealthier). It makes that person richer because he was able to give when he had nothing.
4. Always have time to listen
We’re given 2 ears and one mouth for a reason, and then one month we have our tongue is enclosed between our teeth so we can better protect it. To find the time to listen to your siblings and let them vent and tell their stories enables them to have a deeper connection with them.
5. Take time out to have deep conversations
It’s super easy to have short bursts of conversations with your siblings, sharing a post here and there, sharing what’s happening. But when you actually take out the time to listen and talk about the stuff that really matters. This is when you really build that connection and get closer to them. It’s the same as taking the time out to listen, but now you’re having a discussion that means a lot to each one of you.
6. Discuss a topic that your sibling is deeply passionate about
Each of your siblings and if you just have the one they’ll have one specific thing that they’re super passionate about and willing move mountains and take the extra time out to actually go and make it happen. Talk in detail about these topics. This can be fitness related, food-related, sports-related or something that just lights them up. Again we’re just trying to get closer and yes sometimes there will be stuff that’s going to turn you off or something you said will turn them off. But when you’re talking about passions something in your mind clicks and you strengthen the bond.
7. Share a recipe or hack you recently discovered
I’m all about hacks, life hacks, food hacks any kind of hacks. And when I discover something new I want to run out and share what I learned. So if you’re an explorer go out there learn something new and bring it back to share with your sibling(s) and you’ll be amazed if they hadn’t already learned about it. If that’s the case you can always learn how they’re using it and what progress they’ve made.
I’m sure there are a lot more ways to get closer to your siblings, if you have any suggestions, I’d love to hear about them. Because guess what, blood is thicker than water, hence why it hurts when your sibling says something that’s true. I love all of you and I totally care about you.
Thanks for reading and sticking around 🙂
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Wow isn’t that a marketing term? Besides also being a restaurant with the same name.
It’s kinda appropriate because majority of the workforce in the US look forward to the weekend. Thanks God it’s Friday! To mark the beginning of the weekend. After 40-60 hours of work folks can relax and spend two days doing nothing or having fun with the families. Unfortunately we only get 52 weekends.
Which means we’re limited to about 104 days where we can plan out what we want to do. And guess what some weekends the weather isn’t right to go out and play with the kids. Other weekends we gotta go visit families and events. So now those 104 days get reduces down to an even smaller number.
If you haven’t heard of that phrase or watched a few episodes of the famous warner brothers tv show ‘Pinky and the Brain’ you’re totally missing out.
What’s really interesting about the show that stands out to me now more than ever is their relentless pursuit to take over the world.
In each episode Brain and Pinky two lab rats devise a plan that’ll help Brain run the world, their constant failures but then going at it again reminds me how many times we as humans need to persist and keep moving forward.
So today’s plan is to get back on the track to edit the backlogged episodes and keep moving forward.
I also learned a lot of new tips today that I didn’t k it in the beginning. And I think I can help others achieve their goals in building their personal brand as well as establish their authority.
It’s been overt 10 days since the last blogpost and that goes to show that if you’re not thinking about something constantly it’s not going to become a habit overnight.
First of all it is not healthy to be thinking about the same thing over and over that’s why we have reminders and habits.
Secondly, habits form after you consistently do something for 60+ days and adding too many things at once to that habit will also deter you from forming that habit.
A study revealed why most people are not able to keep their New Years resolutions and that is because we add too many thing too many resolutions on ourselves to accomplish.
Take exercising for example, let’s say you work out twice a month and you resolve to do it twice a week, that resolution is already flawed from the get go, because you might be able to stick with it for say 1-2 months, but it’s going to be super hard. Because you’ve added 600% more exercises to your month than you initially managed.
The ideal way to get to 2/week exercise would be to start with 1/week and continue that for 3 months, then introduce 2/week and keep that up for 3 months and gradually get good at keeping up.
So yes reminders are necessary, it can be a person reminding you to do your thing or an app. I remembered that I hadn’t written in 10 days so I thought to myself that I can simply set a reminder on my phone which is with me all waking hours of the day.
So now the reminders app will remind me everyday in the morning to write a blogpost. Hopefully this can help me form this essential habit.
When I restarted blogging I simply depending on my brain to remind me and we can’t do that all the time.
Off loading a simple task such as reminders to an app keeps your mind clear and focus on working more efficiently.
Yea it’s not a massive revelation but it’s good to come to some conclusions without jumping on a mat.
Here’s the problem right, if you’re constantly consuming anything it’s hard to create. You can’t be eating and cooking at the same time, I mean you technically can but that’s not exactly the same as enjoying a meal.
My metaphor on that one fell flat on the face 😂
I missed a lot of days not writing when I promised that I’d continue to write. Do I have excuses? Was I creating content? Yes!
I’ve been writing my book chapter on mobile video production. It’s been a learning experience not just writing but also making sure the information is accurate.
Then yesterday I recorded a few videos to connect the chapter and the information. So I can help my friends make better videos just by using their iPhones.
Are you connecting with new people every day? Connecting with people on a daily basis, learning their story, learning their journey, it’s all part of being human beings.
The power of connection exponentially increases as you connect with more people daily.
Today I had the pleasure to speak with my team mate from Team Velocipede, Saad Reza and we talked about cycling, health, and keto as well as podcasting.
I also had the opportunity to meet up with my good friend and podcaster Erol Ertumen and host of LinkedIn MasterEEE group on Facebook.
As well as an upcoming podcaster and photographer Vadym Guliuk.
We got to talk about podcasting, marketing and understanding what our audience needs.
I also got to chat with Rod Ferrier and we talked about some really cool things that we can do to help others with education around video production.
So go out there and connect with people sharing your ideas and your goals and you never know who will be available to send you in the path to achieve your goals what do you think leave a comment below.
Today I discovered very disturbing news through my cousins. He pointed me to a tweet by Danya Williams that mentioned:
SHARE please be aware and very cautious of what your child watches on YouTube and KIDS YOUTUBE. There is a thing called “Momo” that’s instructing kids to kill themselves, turn stoves on while everyone is sleep and even threatening to kill the children if they tell their parents.
One of my cousins mentioned, “Sometimes I want to move to an island and hunt and gather.” I responded well you can still do that, but we all can’t live on an island, disconnected from each other.
Human beings are social animals, because we love to connect and enjoy each others conversations, some more than others.
But as parents, we need to make a stance and simply control the content and media our children are exposed to. Limit time to 30 minutes max to a select few items that you’ve already monitored and vetted. We also need to spend more time with our children as that is all they’re looking for.
Then he mentioned that he does want to get rid of his Television. To which I claimed well that’s quite honorable but we still have our phones which access those same media. Handing the phones to kids is a bad habit that we all do, simply to have some time to ourselves and we’re all to blame for it.
The biggest reason behind it (handing the iPhones or iPads over to our kids) is because that’s super easy to do.
The one thing that is constant in our lives is the 9-5 mentality. And when we’re home after 5/6/7pm we just want to do nothing because we’re so tired from the usage of our minds.
We simply then put things off for the weekend, and when the weekend comes we’re either driving to someone’s house or going out for groceries or other errands.
We grow up learning about how life is meant to be devised into separate sections. Between work and life and everything else.
I think the television needs a separate room to itself with lock and key.. and not be in the family room, this way we can control when it is being consumed.
Regardless we need to spend more time with our kids and teach them good moral lessons by being those examples.
What do you think should be done? Would love some comments below.